Ep 84: Relationship Agreements with Eri Kardos
What are the differences between rules and agreements and why does it matter?
How do you go about figuring out what agreements will support us to thrive in relationships?
Can there be room for delight and playfulness as you co-create agreements for your relationship(s)?
On this week’s show Effy and Jackie were joined by Eri Kardos, the author of Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship to talk about:
- A practical approach to intentionally making relationship agreements
- How to incorporate curiosity and lightness to the process and create a living document
- Main pitfalls as people have their first go at making agreements
To learn more about Eri Kardos, follow her on Twitter @Eri_Kardos, on Instagram @coacherikardos, or via her website: erikardos.com
You can find her book along with other recommended reads at wearecuriousfoxes.com/readinglist
To find more about Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla, follow them at @wearecuriousfoxes, @coacheffyblue, and @jacquelinemisla on Instagram.
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