Relationship Health

Here are 6 tips to help you explore the full scope of your attraction, while staying in integrity within your monogamous relationship.

4 MIN READ

Here are 5 tips for finding reconnection if you or your partner are experiencing a low libido due to depression and anxiety.

3 MIN READ

Every now and then, relationship turmoil will arise - real or perceived - and send us spinning. These are the three tools you need to determine if your relationship is really at risk, or if you are simply responding to self-imposed fears.

10 MIN READ

Arguing in a relationship is inevitable, but the merry-go-round fight doesn’t have to be. Emotionally Focused Therapy offers us tools to access our feelings - the root causes of our common repeated disagreements, and some advice on how to fight better.

5 MIN READ

Does the idea of talking money in your partnerships trigger a stress response? You're not alone, but financial planning is a part of any relationship design. Come along as we explore some strategies to simplify this difficult conversation.

3 MIN READ

There’s a victim in most of us - perhaps waiting for a path to salvation and healing. This is a journey to learn the distinction between caretaking and mutual care.

2 MIN READ

The idea of dating a sex worker can be intimidating in many ways, but this story is a wonderful guide for anyone who would like to be a supportive partner to a sex worker.

7 MIN READ

We need to talk. Sound like a familiar and anxiety-inducing statement? You're not alone. We’re sharing 3 conversations you must have in your relationship.

6 MIN READ

As we fight in the streets and in our minds to overcome archaic systems of race, class, gender identity, ability, and sexual orientation, is this moment also an invitation for us to challenge the prescribed narrative around love, sex, and relationships?

5 MIN READ

“I don’t know what you want me to say.” If this phrase is a mainstay in your relationship arguments, then this attachment style breakdown may sound familiar. We've got just the script you need disrupt the pattern.

5 MIN READ

When infidelity is uncovered, it can feel like an earthquake. Can a relationship survive after the ground beneath your feet shakes? Is non-monogamy possible after an affair?

10 MIN READ

During this time of physical separation, here are 5 tips on how to give and receive socially distant touch.

3 MIN READ

When we venture off the traditional course for relationships, there is much more room for fluidity and dialogue. We reject the mold for a normal break up and find that relationships are no longer all or nothing.

2 MIN READ

Five accounts narrating the unique dynamics that come along with being in a non-monogamous relationship and the self-reflection gained during/after a transition in the relationship(s).

2 MIN READ

There is an infinite number of ways to individually tailor your needs while exploring the many relationship designs - the first step is to find your design.

2 MIN READ

Why is it that when we feel comfy and settled, we suddenly long for passion and freedom? And conversely, why do a string of spontaneous adventures have us longing for stability? Is it possible for us to be both planted and to fly?

What is couple privilege? How does it differ from hierarchy in relationships? How does it affect relationships? How can we design our relationships with privilege and hierarchy in mind?

What is borderline personality disorder and what causes it? How does it affect familial and romantic relationships? What does treatment look like? What can people with loved ones who have BPD do?

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with nationally recognized sex therapist and the author of She Comes First and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex, Dr. Ian Kerner.

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Marie Thouin about her research on compersion. Dr. Thouin shares the factors that promote or get in the way of nurturing feeling joy for your partner’s joy.

What happens to a relationship after there is betrayal? Is it possible to rebuild after trust is destroyed? Can infidelity exist within a non-monogamous relationship?

Are outbursts, a chronic lack of trust, and an unpredictable fluctuation between avoidant and anxious behavior a sign of disorganized attachment? What is disorganized attachment? How does it affect relationships?

Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Lydia Collins to talk about consent education, bodily autonomy within the context of race, and the difference between having a type and objectifying or fetishising someone.

Effy and Jacqueline explore the love-at-first-sight myth and try to parse apart the difference between attachment wound activation and attraction (and even arousal) - which can all feel confusingly similar to the nervous system when we meet a potential new partner if there’s unaddressed trauma.

Are there different modes to the same relationships? Can feeling safe, settled and comfy get in the way of passion and the erotic? How do we know what type of connection is available in any given relationship?

Effy and Jacqueline invite journalist and author Amy Gahran to the show to discuss the relationship escalator, what it looks like to get off it or opt out of it in the first place, solo polyamory, voluntary singledom, couple’s privilege and its flip side, singleism.

What does it mean to put effort into relationships? Does one person always show up more than the other? Is relationship maths as simple as 50+50 makes 100%?

Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Justin Mogilski about his international research on the best and the worst strategies for navigating consensually non-monogamous relationships.

While transformation denotes a dramatic change from one thing to another, Effy and Jacqueline discuss how we are focusing on evolution - by stripping away the things that no longer align with our truth.

Effy collaborated with our friends at Grown Up Questions, a podcast about the life long process of becoming adults. The hosts Ben and Hannah, a brother and sister, explore the love languages with us to make sense of the way they connect to one another.