Ep 78: Asexuality with Angela Chen
Why do some asexual folks have sex? In a hypersexualized society, what is it like to be asexual? Can asexuality be an important factor for female sexual liberation?
Effy and Jacqueline are joined by journalist, editor, and the author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex, Angela Chen to talk about the asexuality spectrum, its role in identity politics, and why her book is important all sexual orientations to understand the role of sexuality in society.
To learn more about Angela Chen, follow her on Twitter @chengela, on Instagram at @angelaetcetera, or via her website: angelachen.org.
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Still Curios?
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Why do we react in ways that seem counterproductive or self-defeating? Are our minds made up of distinct "parts" that influence our behavior? How can we understand and integrate these internal parts to create personal growth and harmony?