Ep 80: Attachment Styles, Trauma and Non-Monogamy with Jessica Fern

 

Do you think that there is a correlation between attachment style and one's propensity towards non-monogamy? How are our sex lives affected by our attachment styles?  How those in a non-monogamous relationship can work towards secure attachment?

Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, public speaker, and trauma and relationship expert, and the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy to discuss attachment styles and trauma and how they impact our relationship structures and sexuality.

You can find Jessica Fern via her website: jessicafern.com. On there, you can access her webinars and join her newsletter so that you get updates about her work and a notification of when her practice opens up to new clients.  

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