3 Tips to Combat Loneliness While Your Partner is Out
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Are you home alone while your partner is out on a date? This is a common #PolyProblem.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Here are three tips (that I learned from personal experience) to help you navigate loneliness and jealousy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Fill Your Tank⠀
Make sure you feel connected before your partner goes out. When my relationship tank was empty, it made my partner's absence harder. Try to spend quality time together leading up to the date night. You may feel less jealous if your tank is full.⠀⠀⠀
personal date night
Think of it as a date night...with yourself. In the beginning my time was spent waiting, pacing, and looking at the clock. That changed for me when I decided to spend the night with ME. I binged watched my favorite shows on Netflix, ordered my favorite takeout, scheduled a call or drink with a friend, and did things that brought me joy.
schedule surprises
If you are the person who is going out on a date, leave your partner with things to remind them that you care about them. Schedule flowers or chocolate to be delivered while you are out, leave notes around the house with cute messages, set up a scavenger hunt that leads to a small thoughtful gift, or pre-schedule some poems to be sent to them via email while you are out. They will appreciate knowing that just because you are out with someone else, it does not impact how you feel about them.
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It's not easy, but some thought and planning can make it easier.
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