Why is it that when we feel comfy and settled, we suddenly long for passion and freedom? And conversely, why do a string of spontaneous adventures have us longing for stability? Is it possible for us to be both planted and to fly?
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What is couple privilege? How does it differ from hierarchy in relationships? How does it affect relationships? How can we design our relationships with privilege and hierarchy in mind?
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What is borderline personality disorder and what causes it? How does it affect familial and romantic relationships? What does treatment look like? What can people with loved ones who have BPD do?
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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with nationally recognized sex therapist and the author of She Comes First and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex, Dr. Ian Kerner.
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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Marie Thouin about her research on compersion. Dr. Thouin shares the factors that promote or get in the way of nurturing feeling joy for your partner’s joy.
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What happens to a relationship after there is betrayal? Is it possible to rebuild after trust is destroyed? Can infidelity exist within a non-monogamous relationship?
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Are outbursts, a chronic lack of trust, and an unpredictable fluctuation between avoidant and anxious behavior a sign of disorganized attachment? What is disorganized attachment? How does it affect relationships?
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Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Lydia Collins to talk about consent education, bodily autonomy within the context of race, and the difference between having a type and objectifying or fetishising someone.
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Effy and Jacqueline explore the love-at-first-sight myth and try to parse apart the difference between attachment wound activation and attraction (and even arousal) - which can all feel confusingly similar to the nervous system when we meet a potential new partner if there’s unaddressed trauma.
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Are there different modes to the same relationships? Can feeling safe, settled and comfy get in the way of passion and the erotic? How do we know what type of connection is available in any given relationship?
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Effy and Jacqueline invite journalist and author Amy Gahran to the show to discuss the relationship escalator, what it looks like to get off it or opt out of it in the first place, solo polyamory, voluntary singledom, couple’s privilege and its flip side, singleism.
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What does it mean to put effort into relationships? Does one person always show up more than the other? Is relationship maths as simple as 50+50 makes 100%?
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Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Justin Mogilski about his international research on the best and the worst strategies for navigating consensually non-monogamous relationships.
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While transformation denotes a dramatic change from one thing to another, Effy and Jacqueline discuss how we are focusing on evolution - by stripping away the things that no longer align with our truth.
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Effy collaborated with our friends at Grown Up Questions, a podcast about the life long process of becoming adults. The hosts Ben and Hannah, a brother and sister, explore the love languages with us to make sense of the way they connect to one another.
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